Dear Carrie, I’m going on my first ever ‘grown-up’ date and I’m extremely nervous. Do you have any tips on what to do or not? Sincerely, First date jitters.

Dear First date jitters,

Everything is going to be fine. First dates can be very nerve wrecking but if you relax a little bit and don’t over-think things it can go very smoothly. So here are a few tips and little things I like to do on my first dates.

1. Venue
If you are doing the choosing make sure it’s somewhere you have been before you don’t want to have a horrible experience with the food or services when you get there, it will just bring extra stress. Also do not go anywhere too noisy because you won’t be able to talk or the cinema; you want to get to know your date.

2. Make an effort
But don’t go over the top. Leave the smokey eye at home instead go for something subtle and elegant. When it comes to the outfit you want to leave something for his imagination so nothing too short or breast-worthy.

3. Punctual
Do not be late even fashionably. It’s the first time you meet you want to make sure you’re on time. People are very anxious on first dates and making him wait is pretty rude.  If you are running late make sure you call or text.

4. Drinking
In moderation ! Alcohol can bring out horrible sides in people. You want the other person to learn about you when you’re sober. A drink or two to get the edge off is fine.

5. Be yourself
This is the most important part. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If you want to start a relationship with this person you want it to be built on honesty. If you stick to the truth it will be a lot easier to remember on the next dates. You want him to like you for who you are with the good and bad bits.

There are lots of other little things like remember your manners, be kind and confident.  Good luck !