Dating tips: what not to do (guys)

Writers note: This post is way overdue and I apologise lots of things have been happening all at once (getting back from holiday, finding a new house, uni) so I haven’t had time to sit down and write. Everything should be back on schedule from now on. Thanks for sticking around xo

A few weeks ago, I went on a (blind) date from hell. The guy was so self-centered I was shocked, I don’t even understand how my friend thought we would get along. So here are a few tips for all the guys out there,who want to look good and impress a girl not make them want to bitch about you to their friends.

1. Punctual 

As I said in my post on first dates, be on time. There’s nothing worse than waiting for your date to show up. If you are going to be late, call or text to let her know. And once you get there, APOLOGISE don’t just laugh it off; that is the worse thing you could do.

2. Conversation

If you’re meeting a girl for the first time, do not talk religion or politics these are two very sensitive and personal topics. You don’t want to go upsetting someone the first time you meet them. Keep it for when you have gotten to know her better. Also if you’re the kind of guy that thinks women should be in the kitchen and what not. Keep it to yourself. Do not go all Alpha male on her she will cross you off before you’ve even had time to say: ‘Where’s my sandwich’.

3. Food

Never, ever order for her, especially if it’s to order a salad. Not all girls want to eat a salad. In fact most girls would rather have a juicy steak. However if it’s a place you’ve already been too, a suggestion is more than welcome and appreciated.

4. Be confident, not cocky

There is a big difference. You do not need to show off, that is the biggest show-off when a guy flaunts their money/possesions/etc. Be humble.

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Dear Carrie, I’m going on my first ever ‘grown-up’ date and I’m extremely nervous. Do you have any tips on what to do or not? Sincerely, First date jitters.

Dear First date jitters,

Everything is going to be fine. First dates can be very nerve wrecking but if you relax a little bit and don’t over-think things it can go very smoothly. So here are a few tips and little things I like to do on my first dates.

1. Venue
If you are doing the choosing make sure it’s somewhere you have been before you don’t want to have a horrible experience with the food or services when you get there, it will just bring extra stress. Also do not go anywhere too noisy because you won’t be able to talk or the cinema; you want to get to know your date.

2. Make an effort
But don’t go over the top. Leave the smokey eye at home instead go for something subtle and elegant. When it comes to the outfit you want to leave something for his imagination so nothing too short or breast-worthy.

3. Punctual
Do not be late even fashionably. It’s the first time you meet you want to make sure you’re on time. People are very anxious on first dates and making him wait is pretty rude.  If you are running late make sure you call or text.

4. Drinking
In moderation ! Alcohol can bring out horrible sides in people. You want the other person to learn about you when you’re sober. A drink or two to get the edge off is fine.

5. Be yourself
This is the most important part. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If you want to start a relationship with this person you want it to be built on honesty. If you stick to the truth it will be a lot easier to remember on the next dates. You want him to like you for who you are with the good and bad bits.

There are lots of other little things like remember your manners, be kind and confident.  Good luck !